Ask Diane: Making Changes to My Life


Who is She? She's Newsletter Window Shopping Gift Certificates Tell-A-Friend Contact She Ask Diane Blending Our Family Ask Diane Making Changes to My Life Cool Tips for Hot Flashes Ask Diane Love and Relationship Stress Self Sabotage Conquer It with Love! Tips from Our Readers Painless Pledging Attracting Your Perfect Sponsor 20-30-60 Give Your Spandex a Break! Perfectionism Myth #2 154U Your Secret Code Conquer Household Chaos Garage Procrastination Perfectionism Myth #1	Wisdom to enrich your life Ask Diane Making Changes to My Life by Diane Riley *Dear Diane:* I feel stuck and my relationships are not working the way that I’d like them to. My friends and family don’t respect my time and are always asking me to do favours for them. How can I inject some new energy into my life? In a Rut Dear In a Rut: This sounds like a boundary issue. To improve your relationships with others, begin by treating yourself the way that you would like to be treated. Ask yourself, “How can I better respect my time?” Decide, in advance, how much time you are willing to give to others and be willing to say “no” when you are feeling overextended. People likely ask you for favours because you are a “yes” person. You can let them down gently by saying that you would love to help them, however, your calendar is full right now. By spending more time doing things for yourself, you will be able to give more joyfully to others. *Dear Diane:* I would like to change my job and do something entirely different, but I don't know how to go about it. Where do I start? Perplexed Dear Perplexed: Excellent question and one that many people are faced with! You are probably bored because you are not using your natural gifts and, therefore, not living your purpose. A great way to start is by taking an inventory of your natural skills and abilities. Make a list of things that you do effortlessly and with great enjoyment. People may often compliment you on these skills. Some examples are, “You are so - organized, handy around the house, or great with children, pets or plants!” Next, go back as far as you can remember in your childhood and ask yourself, “What are some of the things I have enjoyed doing most in my life?” Break your life down into 5-year blocks and pick the one thing from each timeframe that you truly enjoyed doing most and did very well. Write down your thoughts and ideas on the following questions as they will give you important clues to the livelihood that is right for you: What am I doing when I completely lose track of time? What type of career/job do I most identify with? Who are my role models, heroes/heroines? What are some of my unfulfilled aspirations? After you have determined your natural talents and your passions in life, reflect upon and take some time to write down your deepest values and beliefs. These are usually related to important areas of life such as relationships, finances, security, spirituality, health, etc. Your values will guide you in choosing a livelihood that will give you the deep fulfillment for which your soul truly longs. Some common examples are honesty, integrity, generosity, freedom and discipline. Once you have completed these exercises, you will have greater clarity about the work that you are meant to do because you will have affirmed what is really important to you in life. ** Was this helpful for you? Do you have more questions about this topic? The theme for April's column will be Making Room for Growth! Have you identified a change you want to make and would like to know how to implement it? Are you worried about how others might perceive the change you would like to make? The first 10 people to send in their questions about a challenge they have with a change they want to make will receive a copy of Diane's article 7 Steps to Your Right Livelihood. Please submit your questions here. Diane Riley is a Life Mastery Coach & Author who is committed to helping people find deeper purpose and meaning in their lives. Diane currently lives, works, and plays in beautiful South Surrey, British Columbia, Canada. To arrange for an exploratory coaching session or to subscribe to Diane’s complimentary e-zine, “Magical Wisdom for Everyday Living”, contact her at diane.riley@telus.net**
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