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Ask DianeLove and Relationship Stress
by Diane Riley
Dear Diane: What is one easy thing I could do to improve my relationship?
In our busy, fast-paced lives, we need some simple tools. Here’s one that I call the One Minute Romance Tip. Set the intention to give your partner a special hug every day. It doesn’t take a lot of time and it can make a BIG difference.
How do you give someone a special hug?” Begin by setting the intention to send your partner love and ask, “May I give you a special hug?”
Hug them with an open heart, spending a few extra moments to let them soak it in and feel how much you love and care for them. It only takes a minute each day but the benefits can last a lifetime. Thanks to my client NW for this great idea!
Dear Diane: My partner and I are both busy with our careers and don’t seem to have much quality time together. What can we do?
Begin by having a heart-to-heart talk about what quality time means to each of you. This would include the types of activities that you would like to do, how much time, and when you want to devote to spending quality time together each day, week, or month.
Next, make a commitment to each other to block these times in your calendars and consider it sacred time with each other. Daily quality time could be as simple as giving each other a special hug or sharing what you are grateful for before going to sleep.
Another idea is to take turns every other week giving your partner a simple back or foot rub. A great way to start the day is by asking your partner, “What is the most important thing that I can do for you today?” Just asking the question will make them feel more important to you.For a weekly date night, you could alternate planning a special evening or a surprise outing. Keep your partner’s list of activities handy so that you can refer to it if you get stuck. Be sure to select an activity that you know your partner would enjoy doing.
At least once a month, plan a whole day's outing together just to get away from the cares and concerns of everyday living. Every few months, or for special occasions like birthdays or anniversaries, take a romantic weekend get-away trip with your partner. This will certainly help to re-ignite the love and passion in your relationship!
It is important to remember that the quality of the time you spend together is what counts, so do be totally present with your partner during these sacred times.
I recommend Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, to determine yours and your partner’s primary love languages. Relating with your partner in their love language will help to keep their emotional love tank full.
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The theme for March’s column will be Rebirth! Are you unhappy about, or struggling with something that needs to change in your life?
The first 10 people to send in their questions about some aspect of re-defining themselves will receive a copy of Diane's article 3 Keys to a Joyful Relationship. Please submit your questions here.
Diane Riley is a Life Mastery Coach & Author who is committed to helping people find deeper purpose and meaning in their lives. Diane currently lives, works, and plays in beautiful South Surrey, British Columbia, Canada.
To arrange for an exploratory coaching session or to subscribe to Diane’s complimentary e-zine, “Magical Wisdom for Everyday Living”, contact her at diane.riley@telus.net
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How to Express
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